About Kathy

Kathy Susan Monson Kaiser

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Kathy Susan Monson Kaiser was born in 1952 to Ruth and Ian Monson in Bellingham, WA and passed away on June 21, 2013. She attended Franklin, Whatcom, Sehome, and Western Washington University schools in Bellingham and graduated from Smith College in Massachusetts with a B.A. in psychology. Kathy enjoyed extensive travel, time with friends, and watching sports. She was a talented crafter, knitter and chef. She was like a mother to many, always ready with her unique wisdom, warm hugs, and great advice. Kathy passed due to complications from recurrent breast cancer which she fought with great courage, humor, and amazing grace from 2006-2013. She is survived by her dear husband, Fred Kaiser, charismatic daughter, Elizabeth, son and recently graduated physician, Max, and his wife Paulina.

Also, she is survived by her uncle and aunt, Don and Margaret Lind, aunt, Pat Haveman, brother Steve Monson, numerous fantastic cousins, nieces, nephews, Kaiser family members, and the world’s best friends who closely cared for her in her waning months. She gives thanks for the wonderful attention she received from her physicians, nurses, caregivers and Hospice. A private celebration for family and friends will take place at a later date.

A note from Kathy:

As I lay in my bed contemplating the next stage in my journey, my mind is full of beautiful memories created by my loving family and friends. My life has been enriched by the experiences I have shared with all of you—mostly good, and, sometimes, a little less so. Either way, they have woven the tapestry of the most wonderful life I can imagine. I want all of you to know how important you have been to me and how much I truly love you. As I say goodbye I want you to also know that I will be watching over you, and will be there when you need me. Please enjoy your lives to the fullest and be there for each other. I know that you will take good care of the love of my life, Fred, who will need each of you. I couldn’t have asked for a more wonderful and loving partner. Please try to remember the good times we have experienced together, as there is no use wasting time being sad. I wish all of you to be truly loved as I have been.

With all my love, and on my way to another adventure… -Kathy

22 thoughts on “About Kathy

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    Larry Simkins says:

    June 25, 2013 at 8:09 am

    I serve on the Bayside Swim Club board with Kathy for about 15 years. I took an instant liking to Kathy and always appreciated her abilities to get things done. She told it like it was and should be and that was a wonderful quality. The exact type of person to serve on a board. She will always have a warm spot in my heart and I will miss seeing her at the WWU basketball games. I always smiled when I saw her. We will all miss you.

    Larry Simkins

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    Ward Fridrich says:

    June 25, 2013 at 8:41 am

    I met Kathy in 1991 when the two of us coached U-7 soccer. Neither of us knew much about soccer but she was ready to learn and enjoy the time with the kids. Kathy loved playing games with her kids and was a wonderful Mom and wife. All I can imagine now about her is her happy smiling face. I am so sorry to hear of this sad news and have said a prayer for Kathy and her family.

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    Suzanne says:

    June 25, 2013 at 12:22 pm

    A loving union of monumental proportions has been divided. Fred has lost Kathy’s earthly companionship, though she will continue to envelope him in heavenly love. We who were blessed with sharing Kathy’s friendship, receiving her handmade gifts of beaded jewelry, knitted treats (mine were baby afghans to softly cradle my infant grandchildren) and being warmly welcomed into hers and Fred’s home to enjoy her delicious cooking, will hold these memories dear. What I wouldn’t give to see Kathy walk into an exam room at the clinic, interrupting an exam, to demand a kiss from Fred, once again!

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    Mark and Erin Schlichting says:

    July 1, 2013 at 10:24 am

    Dear Fred and Family, We are so sorry for your loss, and our loss. What a fine woman Kathy was. We will remember and cherish the many fun times at Comus, and the lovely spirit of playfulness and friendship that Kathy shared with everyone. Her final message to us all is a fitting tribute to the way she lived and to her deep and abiding faith. Our thoughts and prayers are with you.

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    Anne Mustappa says:

    July 1, 2013 at 10:26 am

    All my sympathy goes out to the Kaiser family. Kathy was a wonderful, kind, woman whom I was lucky to meet. As a founding member of Wine and Words…our book club, she brought so much energy and enthusiasm. Hosting the best meetings with excellent food, wine and a theme table for the season. She had grace and charm that goes unmatched. We all loved Kathy and I still hear her laugh. My good thoughts are with you.

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    Amy Cloud says:

    July 1, 2013 at 1:45 pm

    So many mourn Kathy’s passing, as she was a wonderful woman. I am lifting you in prayer for grace and peace. I got to know Kathy when we were both board members for Current Industries (a non-profit workshop for the disabled.) She was very practical, capable, and a joy with whom to serve. I especially treasure a “subcomittee meeting” at her house, when we spent an afternoon getting better acquainted, and discovering many Sehome (and Bellingham) friends in common. She leaves us all – and our shared community – in better hands, because she chose to get engaged and involved. Thank you for sharing her with us.

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    Clark Wilkins says:

    July 6, 2013 at 1:37 am

    I know I’m late in sending this and it might never get read. I immediately offered to take my wife, Mary Jo (Rall) to the funeral because she and Kathy were close friends in high school. She declined because the one person worth making the trip for wasn’t going to be there when she arrived. But I would have come for Fred. Perhaps I shouldn’t say this in a tribute to Kathy because the rest of this is for Fred. It has to be because I didn’t know Kathy that well. What I did know I will state below. But, for me, it has to be said and it has to be said for Fred. I hope he understands.

    I know that Kathy fought cancer for years. I’m not surprised she died. I’m surprised she lived this long. I’m sure Fred had a lot to do with that. I’m sure she appreciated it.

    Although my wife knew Kathy far better than me, being a guy I noticed the obvious. Here she was a beautiful cheerleader and she wasn’t the least bit stuck up about it. Dating Mary Jo, I’d be there when they would meet and talk and it was incredible what a pleasant, down to earth person she was. I was struck by that every time. Fred and Kathy were a good match. I’ll take it a step further and say a perfect match. I think everybody at Sehome thought that. If there was a school election on it, they’d have got everyone’s vote.

    But it should be Mary Jo writing this and not me. Why am I writing?

    I’m in the same boat as Fred. Like Fred, I married my high school sweetheart and, like with Kathy, God wants to take her away. Mary Jo suffers from heart disease and is on her 10th stint. So my time with her, like Fred’s with Kathy, is borrowed.

    I know what it’s like to face the inevitable fact that we will outlive our wives. I don’t think God intended that so we’re not equipped to handle it. And, like me, I’m sure Fred saw the handwriting on the wall and thought to himself, “It’s not fair.”

    And it’s not fair. But our bodies don’t come with guarantees. God’s genetic plan is great for most of us but there are always defects and “returns”. And Fred and I share the common experience of being helpless to do anything about it, especially when they took such good care of us and when it seems like such a drawn out, painful process. Women are much better designed to handle this than we men are. They naturally nurture. We naturally grieve (even for Super Bowl losses). But I’m willing to bet that, if Fred had to do it all over again, he’d still marry her. I know I would Mary Jo.

    I’m not good with words or funerals and have never done this before so, if I’m doing it all wrong, I apologize. I think the last time Fred and I talked was at Jamie Aubert’s wedding. But I look forward to seeing him again. Fred is a swell guy. I’m betting that, if Kathy Monson had to do it again, she’d still marry him. In fact, I’m sure of it.

    Good luck in whatever Fred chooses to do because we know Kathy’s going to look out for him and do her usual, perfect job. Again, I wanted to be there. I’d have made the drive.

    Clark Wilkins – age 60 class of Sehome High

    • If anyone has that picture in the yearbook that Renee mentioned, please send it to me and I will post it on this site.


  8. It’s been two months since Kathy passed away and every day I still think about all of the fun times we had together. It’s been a great source of comfort putting together this little website in her memory. It was wonderful looking through the comments left on the Westford Funeral Home guest book as I added them to this page. If anyone wants me to add anything…pictures, recipes, stories…just send them my way and I will be happy to include them.


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